Things I Want My Daughter to Know – Friends


I have been writing this series as a way to record all of those life lessons that I strive to teach my daughter, ones that will happen over time. If you missed the first two installments of Things I Want My Daughter to Know, you can catch up with You Deserve the Best here and No Excuses here.


There will be many friends in your life that will come and go. Make sure that you recognize the qualities that make up a good one and hold onto those friendships. Your friends will be some of the people that will carry you through the hard times in your life and the ones that will laugh and smile with you through the best times.

Everyday, you will meet new people and that will continue through your journey of life. Some of these people will leave your life as quickly as they came into it, and that is okay.  Some of these people will hurt you through their words or actions (intentionally and unintentionally). And some of these people will stick around. Some forever. Those are your friends. You won’t know the difference now and certainly not for a long time, but my hope for you is that one day you will reflect on your life and realize who your real friends are.

Find friends that love and cherish you for who you are, ones that understand you and your quirks and love you just the same. Ones that can see by the look on your face that there is something that you need, even if it is just a hug or someone to talk to. Find a best friend, one from whom you have no secrets and that you could tell anything without them running away or telling someone else. A friend is true to you, not dishonest. Friends will not talk behind your back. They will not treat you differently when you are alone than they do when you are with others. They will respect you. True friends will always be there. You can be apart for months, years even, but when you see a true friend again, you will pick up just where you left off. These are people that you should cherish with all of your heart because that is a special bond. And it is amazing. Don’t take it for granted.

Be sure that you are the kind of friend that you want to have. Tell your friends how much they mean to you. Show them by remembering their special days and being there for them on their hardest days. Always stick up for your friends. Don’t stand by as others are mean to them. Realize that everyone has quirks, things about them that are “different,” and cherish those things about your friends. That is what makes them special and sometimes what makes them perfect for you.

Make sure you learn to forgive, because for all of us, developing a friendship is a journey. No one is perfect and there will be bumps along the road. Look to what really matters and make sure to cut your friends some slack.

I hope that I can teach you how to be a good friend. I have been blessed with some wonderful friends in my life. I love each and every one of them for a different reason. I don’t ever feel like I have no one to talk to and I always feel like my life is full of those that care for me and love me for who I am. Since the day you were born it has been one of my goals to make sure that you are true to yourself and change for no one. That you find people to love you for who you are and who you will become. It is my hope that you will be just as blessed as I have been and that your life is full of friends.

I am SO excited to be a part of Motivation Monday! Started by Barb Hoyer from A Life in Balance and Stephanie from Confessions of a Stay at Home Mom, I have enjoyed reading this link-up for a long time now. It is a great way to start the week!


Please link up your post here! A post that motivates you to be a better you, a better person. This inspiration is different for all of us, some are on a physical journey, some on an emotional one, either way, share your motivation with us…we would love to read! Read through some others that are linked up. You never know where you will find some words of wisdom or even an encouraging idea.

About Lauryn Blakesley

A woman out to explore, celebrate, and enjoy everything that my community and living locally has to offer. Blessed with three beautiful children and an incredible husband, our family embraces adventure while dreaming of what is to come. Lover of knitting, running (although mostly after little ones right now), the color orange, fun accessories, fall, tea, and a clean kitchen floor. I spend my days in awe of my family and trying to teach my three to treat others as they would want to be treated.

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  1. Girls friendships can be so great and so hard at the same time. I like that you remind her to be kind and be the type of friend she would like to have. I hope to teach my daughter that truth as well!
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  2. Wonderful advice, Lauryn!
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  3. What a sweet letter! I find that I struggle to handle day-to-day tasks (laundry, shower, etc.) and when something needs to slide, it is always friends. I am lucky to have great friends that don’t chastise me for being a bit flaky at times, but I hope they know I would always make them a priority if they needed me in an emergency.
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    • I totally feel the same way! There are so many times that I forget or feel like I am totally overwhelmed by life. I agree, I am super lucky too for those friends that let it go and understand…

  4. I absolutely ADORE this series – I really need to do something like that for Princess Nagger. And you are spot on on your advice about friendships – you are such a wise woman! 😉
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  5. Your daughter is so lucky to have your wisdom about friendships. She’ll be a great friend!
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  6. I love this series! I’m sure your daughter will treasure it when she’s older. Have a happy Monday, my friend!
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  7. I love this post! What great words of wisdom – and so very true.
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  8. All of that is just so true, isn’t it a shame most of us didn’t figure that out until we were much older?
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  9. This is a great idea to remind us all of friends of all kinds. good thoughts to remember.
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  10. It’s hard being a girl and growing up in this day and age. These are good thoughts to share not only with your own children but for all children.
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  1. […] I have been writing this series as a way to record all of those life lessons that I strive to teach my daughter. Lessons that she will learn over time. If you missed the first three installments of Things I Want My Daughter to Know, you can catch up with You Deserve the Best here and No Excuses here, and Friends here. […]

  2. […] had three amazing children and they got to spend time with their families…and friends. Such good friends. Oh how they had good friends. Ones from high school that thier bond could not even be explained. […]

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