I have been writing this series as a way to record all of those life lessons that I strive to teach my daughter. Lessons that she will learn over time. If you missed the first few installments of Things I Want My Daughter to Know, you can catch up with You Deserve the Best here and No Excuses here, and Friends here.
I was helping in your class at school the other day. Your teacher was telling you the story of Little Lumpty (the sequel to Humpty Dumpty). After telling the story, she proceeded to describe a “Write and Create” activity that you would be doing. Your class was to depict a picture of Little Lumpty and then give an alternate ending in the writing box below. Your teacher showed you her example and off you and your classmates went to your tables to begin your projects. Of course after splitting off from the large group, everyone began with their pictures. As you drew your wall, you were in your own world, completely oblivious to what was going on around you (classic Caroline ). What you didn’t realize was that every other person at your table drew exactly what the teacher had shown as her example. They drew a brick wall with clearly defined bricks. You did not do that. You colored in your wall a solid brown. Standing there, I knew that it was exactly what you envisioned and you went for it. Sure, it was different, but it was still a wall.
A minute passed, and as you were ferociously coloring your paper brown, a boy at your table looked over and saw what you were doing. He very loudly said, “That is SO messy.”
I stood behind your table watching the whole scene unfold. Your face dropped. For a single second you were mortified. At that moment, I jumped in and said, “She is just being creative.” To which that boy replied, “Well it is messy.” You then said, “It is just different.”
In retrospect, I should have stood back and let you handle the whole thing, but that moment hurt and mamma bear felt like she needed to jump in.
You handled that situation though, just the way that we have taught you. And I was proud. Very proud.
What was most important to me as I reflected upon this scene over and over again since last week was that you had a vision and you went for it. That is you, C, you always have a vision. You have a very specific way that you like things done. That is a trait that is difficult to come by in this world. Not everyone has that. I will give your father credit for that one as that is his style, and he sure doesn’t like anyone messing with his vision.
I hope that you keep those visions that you have, that you see how important it is to follow through with them, and know that it is okay, in fact more than okay, it’s wonderful to be different. You will never be called boring, C, because you are the farthest from following someone else’s lead that you could possibly be. As you grow older and start entering into conversations with classmates and friends, just like the one that you encountered today, it will be harder and harder to go against the norm. It’s far easier just to go along with what everyone else is doing. But once again, the easy road isn’t necessarily the best. Take the hard road, it will pay off in the end.
When I was growing up, I was more of a follower than a leader. I stayed away from being different because I had a hard time embracing confrontations, even friendly ones. As I grow older, I realize more and more how important and amazing that gift of clear vision is, how important it is to just be you. I still to this day have a difficult time with being different and care way too much about what other people think about me. You teach me something every day, and one of the greatest things that you have taught me so far in this life of yours, it is that being different, being creative, having a vision, is a wonderful way to be. You don’t care what other people think about you. As your mom, it has been and always will be my biggest priority to let you be you without trying to change it. You will do great things, C. I have said that from day one of being your mother. You are a leader. Don’t change for anyone, be different.
I am SO excited to be a part of Motivation Monday! Started by Barb Hoyer from A Life in Balance and Stephanie from Confessions of a Stay at Home Mom, I have enjoyed reading this link-up for a long time now. It is a great way to start the week!
Please link up your post here! A post that motivates you to be a better you, a better person. This inspiration is different for all of us, some are on a physical journey, some on an emotional one, either way, share your motivation with us…we would love to read! Read through some others that are linked up. You never know where you will find some words of wisdom or even an encouraging idea.