Why Moving Away From My Mom Made Me Look At Her A Little Differently


My mom is a strong woman. That is something I knew for sure.

12 years ago she fought and wrecked breast cancer. She did it with grace and style. Each and everyday, she continues that fight both emotionally and physically. Not everyone sees that or realizes it when you think about those affected by cancer. The fight is never over, it just changes.

So, I know she is strong.

Just over 6 months ago when Ben and I made the decision to move to Boston, we did so not to get away, but because we thought long and hard about what was right for us, for our family. We made the decision just the two of us, and then told my mom. To be honest, I wasn’t worried about what she would say. I know that sounds selfish, but the reason I wasn’t worried wasn’t because I didn’t care. Rather it was because I was confident that she would support me, support us, no matter where we were or what choices we made. At the time, I am not sure I realized it, but now looking back on the last 6 months, it brings me to tears when I think about the woman that my mom has been.

I am a mom. I would do anything for my children. Anything. But my children are still small. I wash them, I still dress one of them, I cook them meals. Right now, I am their life line. In many ways, this is easy.

What my mom did, what she showed me in ways that she has no idea, that was hard.

When your daughter who sees you every week, who has three children that you adore and love like no other, tells you that she is moving 5 hours away, and you smile and say, “I will be there for you for whatever you need” without hesitation, THAT is strength. THAT is love.

Then, when you do it and do it with grace every single day. THAT is something that will forever leave an impression on your daughter as she raises her children and sets an example for them. That is what my mom did.

Now listen, I am no fool. My mom, she was sad. She didn’t completey understand. She had her moments I am sure, alone where she cried. I know her. But she picked it up and offered words of encouragement, words of excitement in front of the kids, words that were true and genuine because she is a strong woman, and an amazing mom.

What she has done, and continues to do, I hope I can do for each one of my children when they need it. There will come a day when they make a decision that I don’t understand and maybe don’t agree with. There will come a day when I need to pick myself up and be there for them in whatever way they need. I have seen a true example of this.

So, at age 33, I am still learning from my mom. I am lucky that she is here. I am lucky that she is an integral part of my life, even if it is just a little farther away. I am the lucky one.

Thanks, Mom.




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About Lauryn Blakesley

A woman out to explore, celebrate, and enjoy everything that my community and living locally has to offer. Blessed with three beautiful children and an incredible husband, our family embraces adventure while dreaming of what is to come. Lover of knitting, running (although mostly after little ones right now), the color orange, fun accessories, fall, tea, and a clean kitchen floor. I spend my days in awe of my family and trying to teach my three to treat others as they would want to be treated.

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  1. This is great! I hope I can be like your mom when my daughter makes decisions that I don’t like or understand. She’s 18 and will going off to college, so I’m about to get some practice! #motivationalmonday
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  2. What a nice post! Sounds like you do indeed have a great mom. From what I’ve come to know of you so far it looks like you might just be following in her footsteps :)
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  3. wow! You’re mom sounds like a beautiful woman Lauryn! THanks for sharing!


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